I have two beautiful and intelligent daughters, and eventually a boy smart enough to see it was going to come calling. My daughter and her boyfriend spend almost every free moment they have in our house.
We’ve raised them to seek their identity in the things that matter and not in the superficial, so they are somewhat intimidating to young men. But sooner or later a boy of equal substance was going to show up, and now he has. They both have busy schedules, but if they aren’t learning or working, they are in our home.
But if you want to spend time with my girl, I will insist that you treat her like a lady.
So, get the door for her, look me in the eye when you talk to me, and please don’t let your britches fall down so low that I have to look at your underwear band.
As a parent, stay on top of the feelings and things being discussed. I’m not proud of my years as a teenage boy, but as a parent I have a wealth of experience to draw upon. I know you’re going to kiss, but I sure don’t want to see it. Show my daughter the respect she deserves, and she’s been taught to treat you the same way. And no, you can’t go out of town together to see a concert. We spent all those years teaching and instilling values.The hardest task is not to project my experiences on these two when they are not doing anything wrong. In this case as I’ve explained, that’s not an issue with my daughter and her boyfriend. Chances are high that this relationship will eventually come to an end. Trust them until it’s proven they can’t be trusted.Also, secret meetings and clandestine adventures will be discovered—I have my ways! What rules do you have for someone dating your daughter?I escaped it for 17 years of parenthood, but the odds were always stacked against me.
The same goes for your wandering eyes, if they go anywhere below eye level I will ask you to leave the premises as soon as possible, if you do not comply I will take action that I feel is necessary (i.e. Rule #3 I am aware that the so-called latest fashion trends mean that you wear your jeans several sizes too big so that your underwear shows or that you wear jeans known as "girl pants" for boys that are so tight they contour every area of your lower extremities and also expose your underwear.