If I hadn’t been told ‘I’m not interested’ by various men I’ve liked over the years, I wouldn’t have found the love of my life.
I owe all those men a huge ‘thanks, I’m GLAD you weren’t interested!
However, by playing the dating game we are also responsible for exercising compassion and being communicative with those we are not interested in but who flatter us with their interest.
THIS MONTH: “Is there a good way to say ‘Thanks, but I’m not interested’ to someone that messaged you? ” Check out how the dating experts responded after the jump.
If you are not attracted to their photo and this is enough of a reason to support your disinterest, it would obviously be unkind to say so. Remember, if someone is reaching out to you, then they are knowingly putting themselves into a vulnerable position.
In the end, it is up to you to decide whether or not to respond.
You are not obligated either way, but in cases whereby someone has obviously invested their time to write to you, the polite and mature way to decline the connection is through a brief, clear, and kind response.
This discomfort may result through demeaning language, inappropriate topics, or asking highly personal questions in the initial message.
It may also arise from a bad feeling you get from their profile.
I wish you all the best and appreciate the time we spent getting to know one another.'” — April Beyer, Matchmaker and Dating & Relationship Coach for Women.