Telling kids not to ever tell their parents is what child abusers tell their victims!
When you do this you are directly putting your players at risk. There is nothing safe about being on a team when you are picked on or ostracized by your teammates.The winning and losing outcomes are completely secondary to the teaching of valuable life lessons (playing as a team and sacrificing individual needs for the betterment of the team, handling adversity & failure, mastering fear & obstacles, working hard towards a faraway goal, learning to believe in yourself, being a good sport, playing by the rules, etc.) You're NOT a good coach when you place the outcome of a competition in front of the physical and emotional welfare of your players.If you pressure your athletes to play when injured or if you demean and ignore those athletes who are too injured to play, then you are engaging in physical abuse. Instead, it's completely ignoring your body's early warning signs that something is very wrong.Forget those who ran their mouths in a losing effort or before a disastrous defeat, we're focusing on those who backed up their talk. Enjoy the 50 best trash talk lines in sports history. Beware of flying saliva.“When I retire, I’ll get Ricky Hatton to wash my clothes and cut my lawn and buckle my shoes.
There are far more important things at stake here than whether a kid wins or correctly learns the x's and o's.