When Esther shared her experience with parental alienation and how her ex used religion against her, I commented that I could see how she would be puzzled by her children’s behavior, wondering if it was real, wondering what exactly she had done to warrant the rejection, wondering what her ex and others had said to have such an impact.Sometimes parental alienation can start off quite benign but the seeds are planted and the indoctrination grows.In some parent-child relationships, it may take years before you will see the results of your choices and effort.Never make the mistake of thinking you do not matter to your children—you do.”Nancy Kay, Divorce Management Coach at Moving Forward Through Divorce provides guidance to women and men as they learn how to manage the chaos that comes along with divorce.I met her husband, Josh, the summer before, on Mother’s Day, which coincided with their 12th wedding anniversary.Beka had shooed him out of the house to host a mother-daughter tea, and he appeared in the seat next to me at a neighborhood bar.
#borderlinepersonalitydisorder #dateme #oriwillboilyourbunnies Occasionally we would wave across a coffee shop or exchange a few words on the street.
She also advises parents to not give up hope despite the complexity of the situation.
“The journey to repair your relationship with your child can be long and often requires an enormous amount of patience and persistence.
The loss of a connection with the alienated parent also damages the child’s psychological road map for understanding where she came from, since she will now lack one parent as a role model,” explains psychotherapist and author Aleta Koman, in her book, Since parental alienation has such destructive long-term consequences for both parents and children, it is extremely concerning that more is not being done by professionals to clarify when early stage alienation is taking place and take strategic actions to turn things around before the alienation has reached a critical stage.
Unfortunately, many courts and other professionals who deal with parties experiencing high-conflict divorces are not trained about how to detect alienation early on when professional intervention could have the greatest impact.
In addition, since the alienating parent is usually well-experienced at using litigation as a means to control the target parent, many target parents are exhausted and depleted by previous litigation and may fear that more legal intervention will only make things worse.